Unconventional Valentine’s Day Ideas

There’s no better gift you can give, than the gift of time and attention.

In my opinion, going out to dinner is yes, fine and lovely, but I am not sure it speaks to the fun, playful person inside of me.

Here are a bunch of FUN date ideas for Valentine’s Day to make your honey and you feel special and connected again.

Important - WARNING!!!

Leave criticism out of this. It’s not important to do it “right” or have the most perfect magical moment. It’s very important to accept yourself as you are and your lover as they are.
Make eye contact: They say that eyes are windows to the soul.
Make body contact. But don’t go for sex right away!! It takes 20 seconds for a hug to unleash the power of oxytocin that helps us to bond with one another. So hold hands, sit and cuddle together to feel the amazing goodness of oxytocin.
Give it TIME. Reflect on what it means to really, really SEE your partner, lover or friend.

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Take a “Sick Day” Together at Home

There’s no rushing here… don’t force the talking… let time do it’s thing.

Bubble Bath: Candles, hot water, and TIME. Soak, relax and let the water do its trick.

Eat Sexy Snacks: Lounge in your birthday suits noshing on sexy snacks i.e. bite sized yummies that you feed each other. Think dark chocolate covered strawberries, grapes, cut small pieces of fruit or sushi rolls. Go slow. No scarfing food down. The slower you eat… the better.

For a fun day of loving food, here is a menu for Valentine’s Day.

Slow Dance: I think you know what to do!

Watch a sexy movie: Turn up the romance, cuddle in bed and let nature take it’s course.

My favourite turn on movies:

2. Cook Sensual Food Together

Food is an experience of the senses. Smell. Taste. Touch. Look. Listen.

Lots of body contact is required during this cooking session.

Start out by savoring a lovely wine and continue with chopping a gorgeous vegetable together. This is where you let your lover give you gently direction with their hands and shows you how to cut and chop.

Touch and feed each other. Really smell the food and wake up your senses.

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3. Get Sweaty Together

There’s a sense of achievement in completing something together.

Ski or snowboard in the mountains and end in a steamy hot salt-water bath at a spa.

Hire a personal trainer and do a couple’s workout that focuses on teamwork.

4. Go Somewhere Unconventional

Get out of the daily routine and change your environment!!!

Hit the Spa: Warm water salt baths, sauna and steam room to loosen you two up.
Theme Park: Be a kid again and make out after the rollercoaster when your blood is pumping.
Play Games: Laser tag, bowling or driving range. Get moving and that heart rate up together.

5. Do Something Good Together

This is about building the connection between you two and creating a shared experience.

Volunteer.
Food drive.
Clean up of the forest.
Whatever it is, share in the feeling of doing good for others.

6. Breathe Together

Have you ever tried partner yoga? Trying to sync your breathing is very, very, interesting.

The way partner yoga works:

It starts by being in physical contact with one another in a sitting pose.
Slowly starting to breathe and match each other’s breathing rhythm.
The poses that come after focuses on using each other’s body weight to lean in and find trust and comfort within each person.
It creates a wonderful connection between you two as you try to talk and communicate on other things besides the daily grind.
Partner yoga can also be done by extreme beginners.

In Conclusion

Don’t just go out to dinner and buy flowers or chocolates.

Think out of the box and be kids again... together.

Your goal is to SPARK JOY like Marie Kondo in your relationship.

Ask your partner what they did as a child.
Find out what lights them up or what they are curious about.
Focus on being “physical” and present with one another (movies are out!)
Remember, non-sexual body contact is key to warming up and feeling ready to engage with one another especially when things have been tough or stressful. It isn’t easy to shake off the work week grind. Give it time.

Frequently Asked Questions about Valentine’s Day.

Why should I try something unconventional for Valentine’s Day?
Traditional dinner dates can be predictable and boring, especially if you’ve run out of things to talk about. And restaurants are overcrowded on Valentine’s Day. If you try something unique, it adds to the excitement, and can create a lasting memory that gives you a shared experience.
What are some fun at-home Valentine’s Day ideas?
You can cook a meal SLOWLY together (clothes optional), create a home spa experience, or eat sexy snacks together.
What if my partner and I have different interests?
This can be challenging, but take a deep breath and talk about meeting each other half way. Communication skills are key in a relationship, so this would be a great opportunity to practice sharing what turns you on… whatever that is!
How can I make Valentine’s Day special without spending a lot of money?
I got you! A handwritten love letter, stargazing, making a playlist of “your songs,” or cooking together at home with this free recipe book.
Is this blog for couples only, or can singles enjoy these ideas too?
YOU CAN ALSO LOVE YOURSELF UP!! Singles welcome. Whether you're celebrating solo or with friends, these unconventional ideas work for anyone looking to have a fun and meaningful day.
What kind of recipes are included in the free download?
The recipe book features easy-to-make food designed with love, including heart eggy toast, veggie pizza, raspberry Mojito, shrimpfFettuccine alfredo, and a chocolate lava cake dessert.
How can I download the free Valentine’s Day recipe book?
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Wishing you the best in love and connection this year.

xo Vanessa

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